You don’t have a bad memory.
We no longer rely on our memories the way we used to.
Everything is easily googleable.
Can’t remember that restaurant you went to last week? Google.
Can’t remember the directions to your in-laws’ place? Google.
Can’t remember the recipe for mac and cheese? Google.
But, I would say, having a good memory is essential to overall success. Don’t you think?
In this post, I will outline the strategies recommended by Dale Carnegie in his book, How to Develop Self-Confidence and Influence People by Public Speaking, first published in 1957!
I found them timeless and practical! I hope you do, too.
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Money Making Tricks on Medium
There’s hope for shitty writing!
Okay, I’ve been stalking a couple of accounts on Medium who claim to make over $100 a month on Medium. Meaning, they are in the top 6% of writers on Medium!
I’m happy for them, I really am. But I can’t get over how bad their writing is. Weak language. Poor grammar. Vague content. It’s what you would call shitty writing. I’m actually surprised at the number of publications who are OK with this level of writing.
Yet, they are making over $100 a month, and I believe them. Here are four tricks they have been using:
1. Write about Medium
Most of their…
It’s a two-way street.
In my part of the world, we celebrated Mother’s Day on 21 March. And we did it with gifts from children and partners.
Father’s day will come around in June, and again we’ll celebrate fathers with gifts from children and partners.
But where is Children’s Day? I don’t see children getting gifts each year celebrating their presence in our lives!
Why are they getting the short end of the stick? They’re always living with the burden of pleasing and appreciating the parents.
When do WE, the parents, celebrate THEM for choosing us? When do we celebrate them for putting up…
Why so negative?
Dear Mainstream Media,
Why so negative?
You’re constantly bombarding us with “breaking news” of murder, shootings, theft, abuse, more murder, rape, hate, racism, and all forms of evil.
Does breaking news = evil? Or is it evil that sells? Are you looking for drama?
I can’t remember reading “good” breaking news.
2 men accused of drugging, raping Bucks County woman found dead in Miami hotel room
Black man slashed with knife on subway, attack being investigated as a hate crime
Mentally troubled woman seriously burned when she sets herself ablaze on Manhattan street
These are just three random examples of breaking news headlines from the last 24 hours. Topics include drugs, rape, murder, racism, hate crimes, assault, mental illness, self-harm, suicide attempt.
Now, I do get that we need to know about these things. But is this the world we live in…
On Writing
It’s something you’re not willing to admit.
I’ve written 123 stories on Medium in the past 9 months.
I thought I was immune to writer’s block. I’ve written numerous stories about it, and how there’s no such thing.
Writer’s block is fear of writing — writing something bad. It’s fear before attempting to write. We kill the idea before giving it a try.
We say we’re blocked and use it as an excuse to stop writing.
I had no issue with writer’s block. This January I even challenged myself to write for 30 days. I was inspired by Dickie Bush’s #ship30for30. And I was doing well. …
On Parenting
Wisdom from Eckhart Tolle
Parenting isn’t easy.
Your children can get to you. Even when you’re doing your best, trying to be the best parent in the world, they can and will push your buttons every now and then.
You are triggered. Your kid’s action(e.g., throwing a tantrum) becomes a source of anxiety.
But you have to remember it’s not them causing your anxiety. It’s you.
You cause your feeling of anxiety.
Your child is simply behaving a certain way, but you react by becoming angry, stressed, frustrated, etc. Your reaction will then fuel more of your child’s negative actions. …
On Writing
It’s about improving it.
In search of success, you’ve probably learned about the importance of finding your own niche, creating your own category, being yourself, and idiosyncrasy.
If you’re competing in established genres or categories, it’s a steep uphill. You’re up against the category queens and kings. For example, in Online Writing, you’d have to compete with Nicolas Cole.
So the solution is creating your own niche, your own category. Something unique to you.
The sheer thought of creating something new can be overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be.
Seth Godin simplified it with this simple formula.
“Begin with genre. Understand it. Master…
On Writing
Especially negativity.
“The internet brings uninvited energy, positive and negative, to the work we set out to do.” — Seth Godin
How do you expect to get anything done if you are constantly distracted?
Writing requires focus. It requires you to be in the moment. And distractions prevent you from getting your writing done.
It’s not impossible. It’s just much harder to do.
Distractions come in all shapes and forms. They may be notifications, news, tweets, emails, requests, family, friends, internet trolls, and every other thing that takes your attention away from the task at hand.
You don’t have to worry about…
The Dozen
Development Specialist | Professional Grant Writer | 11+ years | Dad | Husband | Natural Bodybuilder | I reflect on dozens of topics.
